Do they listen? Do they hear you?

Teenage hummingbirds don't listen to mmom
Even in nature Teenagers don’t listen to their moms!

Whether you are a high schooler talking a suicidal friend down from the ledge, or a teacher, parent, or trainer, you want to be heard. You want them to listen to you and act on it.

Is anyone listening? Do they hear me? We often wonder. We say a lot of things. Counselors, parents, and trainers prepare our remarks with the hope these gems falling from our lips will make a positive or life-changing impact on the listeners. We don’t know if we’re heard, even if they nod in agreement. Did our words hit home?

Confirmation they heard comes in little gifts here and there

Early in my career I had a wonderful confirmation that has motivated me on my lowest days. I retell it to encourage all of the above people to say your piece and let God do the rest. Memory is an amazing thing. “When the student is ready, the teacher shows up.”

I had started my new speaking business on a shoestring after being an administrator for years. When a mentor asked me what I would do if money were no object, I answered without hesitation: “Start a Training Business!” He told me to “go and claim your inheritance, Beth. Claim the gifts you’ve been given and do this.”

So I did. I was fortunate to have many clients immediately. I’d been in Hawaii for a couple of decades and knew a lot of people. Still, being a 24/7 marketer had its challenges.

Listen and ye shall receive

On the way to church one Sunday morning I was yelling at God. “Please tell me if this is the right path for me! This is TOOOOOO HARD! I need a sign!”

I sat through the sermon and… nothin’. Then I listened to the readings and the songs – nothin’. I was standing outside with friends for coffee hour when a young woman I didn’t recognize approached me. “Are you Beth Terry?” Me: “Ummm, yes?” Not sure what she wanted.

“I want to thank you for saving my life.” A little taken aback I asked her how I had done that.

“Do you remember about 8 years ago when you gave a talk at Central Intermediate?”

“Yes. Yes, I do.”

“Remember you were there to teach all those kids how to interview for jobs?”

“Right. That was fun.”

“Well, you may remember there was a Goth girl standing at the back of the room rolling her eyes and shaking her head at all your great advice?’

“Oh, right! Yes, I remember her!” Visions of a girl with a bad attitude in dark eye liner, a pitbull necklace, black fingernails and head-to-toe black clothing popped into my head.

“That was me.”

“Wow. Good job recovering,” I said to the very polished young lady standing in front of me. “So, how did I save your life?”

She heard me – when she needed to

“About 3 years ago, I was sitting on my lanai with a razor blade to my wrist. Suddenly I heard your voice in my head. I put down the razor, went inside and washed all the Goth off, got dressed and went downtown to look for a job. I got hired!”

Me, trying not to tear up, “Wow. Congratulations! What on earth did I say?”

“You ended your speech to us by saying, ‘Everybody has something good about them and something they need to work on. Expand the good and work on the stuff that needs it. Then go out into the world and make it better because you were born.”

Tears flowed down my face as I hugged her. “That’s pretty good. Sounds like something I say all the time. I’m so happy you heard it!”

“Well I only heard it when I needed it…”

This isn’t about you

And that, my friends, is why you should never worry if it doesn’t appear you were heard. Even if they don’t act on it, when their brains listen, it gets recorded somewhere. People hear things when they are ready, not necessarily when you say them. The brain is an amazing instrument. It has the capacity to store things for later. So keep giving your messages of hope and encouragement. Some day they will hear you. And remember, you are the messenger. It’s not about you. It’s about them. They will hear you when they need to.

Now, get out in the world and make it better because you were born!

Blessings,

Beth

 

 

More tips on how to communicate clearly

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PS – I have room for Two more coaching clients for my one-on-one Public Speaker Coaching. Email me! You’ll be glad you did!

Thank You, Mahalo, Gracias

 Thank You for Being Part of our 30-year Journey!

 

Beth Terry Gratitude card
Thank you all for 30 years! Here’s to 30 more!

What a wild ride it has been. Trips out to Southeast Asia, to Canada, to every state in the United States! Half a million people and more than 3,000 speeches. Many visits to the TSA with 3 million air miles and countless more road trips.

I have been blessed to live my dream of being a Professional Speaker, with topics on everything from Resilience and Change, to Critical thinking and Decision Making, to Customer Service and Conflict Resolution.  I’ve sold over 15,000 copies of my books and coached nearly 100 people to Professional Speaker Status.

Over the years I’ve been able to work with an amazing array of wonderful people. If you’re reading this, you are probably one of them. It’s such an honor to be invited into corporate and associate settings to deliver their messages of motivation and information. And it’s a privilege to work with individuals as they work towards becoming Pros on stage in their own right.

I’m still here!

I’m still giving presentations. I’m still writing books. And I’m still coaching people to be better speakers and speech writers. It has been a roller coaster sometimes with the wonky economy we had the last decade or so. But still, looking out into the audience and watching those popcorn poppers go off in people’s eyes tells me this is important work.

I believe in people. I know we are in a tough time in this country with a lot of divisiveness. But I also know that deep down most of us want the same things: 1) to make it through our day; 2) to take care of someone or something we love; and 3) to improve our lives in some way. People are people whether in Madison, South Dakota or Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. We’re all pedaling as fast as we know how. We all have good days and challenging days.

If I can be there for you or for your people to turn the challenging days into life lessons, and to celebrate your successes, then I’m happy.

Let me know how I can serve you. And know that I appreciate you from the bottom of my heart.

So once again: Thank You, Mahalo, Gracias, Salamat, Xièxiè, Terima kasih, and Tnx eh?

A hui hou (Till we meet again.)

© 2018 Beth Terry EverybodysLost.com

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Overwhelmed?

You Can Conquer Your Overwhelm!

Feeling like this lately?

You aren’t alone. Overwhelm seems to be a natural state for many these days. We live in an information-rich society. A lot of it is not useful or correct. It’s misleading, or just nonsense. Now we have to add to our workload by researching and sifting through the nonsense to find the truth.

The result? We procrastinate. If something looks like too much work, we put it off. We feel dread at the thought of tackling it. Then comes discouragement or disillusion. As one comedian has said, “There are just too many tabs open in my brain!”

I can relate. I’m an information junkie. I am easily distracted by new information or an interesting story. My dad’s mantra was always, “Look it up!” So I do. That leads to another story, another vignette, another interesting picture. I want to know it all! I love to read and know that when I retire, I’ll spend entire days doing just that.

But that doesn’t get the work done today!

These aren’t the only causes of Overwhelm, but they’re the ones that resonate with me. Other causes include Mongoose Management, or Chaos Management; Manager’s Myopia (shortsightedness); and the need to be a Superhero!! We know that person. They always swoop in to save the day. We let them because we’re in overwhelm and they seem to know what they’re doing…

There are other causes, but what matters are the SOLUTIONS! Here are a few I cover in my programs on this topic:

  • FOCUS ~ Pay attention to where you are focused and control that. If you’re like me and easily – SQUIRREL! – distracted, try setting a timer and committing to stay focused on one thing for 12 minutes. Then reset the timer and go for another 12. The words I use are, “I will read that while I’m eating dinner and not before…”
  • FIND SOLUTIONS ~ Too many times we focus on blame. Unless lawyers are going to get involved, is this really important? Recognizing the source of a problem is a good idea. But let it go! Instead, narrow your focus and ask, “What can I do RIGHT NOW to address this? What can I do in an hour? In a week?”
  • DETACH! If you’ve known me for very long you know this is a biggie. Here’s what I wrote this last New Years Day: “Remember to Detach. Step back from social media, step away from big crowds for a bit. Let go of relatives who make you crazy (love them from afar!) Forget trying to control other people. BREATHE.”
  •  MAKE HEALTHY CHOICES ~ How long do you think you have? Really. How long do you think you’ll get away with making bad choices? Choices have consequences. You’ll never get today back. Choose Wisely. Remember this:

You are the only person who is 100% affected by 100% of the choices you make!

  • CREATE GOOD HABITS ~ What do you want your life to look like in a year? What habits can you create to get you there? One step at a time. One tiny exercise at a time. One walk with the dog. One change in bedtime. One elimination of another bad habit and replacement with a good one.

You got this.

Tell you what. I can schedule a live Zoom conversation with you and your team called Conquering Overwhelm and Becoming Productive. I’ve kept the price low so you can do this. Everyone who joins us will get access not only to the personalized recording, but also to a gift basket of downloads that will help you as you lower your stress and improve your life. Contact me and let’s get this new Post-Covid life going! This will be great fun, funny, and stress relieving.

See you there!

Contact me here – https://everybodyslost.com/contact-beth/

To your health!

Beth

 

 

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Improve Your Health? Get a Dog

A Little Dog Inspiration:

©2015 Beth Terry, EverybodysLost.com Xena Chihuahua
My little Xena Princess Warrior – 5 pounds of sweet long-haired Chihuahua charm, RIP

With so much trouble in the world, it helps to occasionally focus on simple gifts offered by our angels in fur coats. Having a rough day? Cast your eyes on their sweet face. More than half the households in America own one or more dogs. Many Americans clearly rely on four-legged inspiration and loyalty to make it through our day. We call it unconditional love. Maybe it is, maybe it isn’t.

Sure, cynics believe our dogs only love us because we’re their food source. Or maybe they lick our faces because they like salt. Most of us don’t care why they’re so excited to see us, we’re just glad someone is!

If we could chill out and be more like our four-legged friends our lives might be more peaceful. Dogs are just who they are. No excuses. They unabashedly flop down on the floor and fall asleep wherever they are. We scold them and they still love us. If they could talk, I doubt they would say, “Does this collar make my face look fat?” They usually can get along with dogs of different colors and “races” with no problem at all. Then again my Chihuahua thinks she’s a Rottweiler, so she does have to make sure you know who’s boss. Indeed, Dorothy Hinshaw captured that when she said, “Even the tiniest Poodle or Chihuahua is still a wolf at heart.

Here’s an assortment of quotes showcasing why we love them…

Starting with a wise quote by Harry Truman who knew about Washington, DC better than most:

You want a friend in Washington? Get a dog.
– Harry Truman

The reason a dog has so many friends is that he wags his tail instead of his tongue.
– Aerosmith song

If there are no dogs in Heaven, then when I die I want to go where they went.
– Will Rogers

Dogs have given us their absolute all. We are the center of their universe. We are the focus of their love and faith and trust. They serve us in return for scraps. It is without a doubt the best deal man has ever made.
– Roger A. Caras

Don’t accept your dog’s admiration as conclusive evidence that
you are wonderful.
– Ann Landers

There is no psychiatrist in the world
like a puppy licking your face.
– Ben Williams

A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you

Olive is ready to play, Beth's Chihuahua-French Bulldog
Wanna Play?

more than they love themselves.
– Josh Billings

If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous he will not bite you. This is the principal difference between a dog and man.
– Mark Twain

The average dog is a nicer person than the average person.
– Andy Rooney

I have found that when you are deeply troubled, there are things you get from the silent devoted companionship of a dog that you can get from no other source.
– Doris Day

Ever wonder if other dogs think poodles
are members of a weird religious cult?
– Rita Rudner

If a dog will not come to you after having looked you in the face, you should go home and examine your conscience.
– Woodrow Wilson

If your dog is fat, YOU aren’t getting enough exercise.
Dr. Randy Aronson, Pet Vet

My dog is worried about the economy because
Alpo is up to $3.00 a can. That’s almost $21.00 in dog money.
– Joe Weinstein

Ever consider what our dogs must think of us?
We come back from a grocery store with the most amazing
haul – chicken, pork, half a cow.
They must think we’re the greatest hunters on earth!
– Anne Tyler

Such short little lives our pets have to spend with us, and they spend most of it watching for us to come home each day.
– John Grogan
~~~~~

If you have a dog, hug it. Bring it to work if you can. If you have no dog, volunteer at a shelter and soon you will have a dog, or two, or three.

Enjoy your day and your life! To a dog you are an alien that lives forever. Cherish that gift!

Blessings,
Beth

 

 

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Why You Procrastinate and How to Stop

Are you putting off important projects?

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Clutter kills creativity!

One of my favorite cartoonists, John Atkinson summed our propensity to procrastinate with this cartoon

Like most people, I wrestle with priorities. These productivity secrets have helped. Each tip focuses on reducing the clutter blocking creativity and motivation.

Some clutter is normal while you’re living your life. There are two kinds of Clutter, though: Denial Clutter and Creative Clutter. The first is an exercise in avoidance. By not addressing the problems, you bury them under mounds of junk that overwhelm and distract you.

Creative Clutter is the mind sorting through the gargantuan puzzle called Life, pulling it together into a beautiful work of Art.

Choose the second. The first will kill you and destroy your soul.

Clutter drains our energy. Piles of magazines and hundreds of knickknacks split our attention and cause us to lose focus. Our peripheral vision busily catalogs all those possessions in case we need them later.

@ 2019 Beth Terry, Clutter
This scene would overwhelm anyone!

Try this: clear your desktop or table. Put all piles and accessories on the floor behind you. Take the one folder you need and place it in front of you. What do you notice? Do you feel an almost instant rise in your energy levels? I felt this when clearing out holiday decorations. I was reluctant to put anything on the newly cleared surfaces. The clean lines, clear spaces, and uncluttered living areas felt much calmer. I may leave it that way. Salvation Army, here I come!

We have cluttered desks, cluttered computer desktops, and cluttered homes. These pile on top of brain clutter: all those things that bounce around in our brains all day and night, keeping us awake. What to do?

Start with your physical environment

Secret 1: De-clutter Your Physical Environment: Gail Blanke’s book “Throw Out 50 Things” was a huge help in getting me started. I love books and every surface is covered in them. Then there’s the collection of goofy souvenirs I picked up along the way. Gail’s book helped me start the sorting process.

Here’s another motivation: in the past few years I’ve helped sort through the estates of four friends who passed away. It’s a sobering reality check when you realize this little statue meant so much to your friend, but to you, it’s just a giraffe gathering dust.

I sorted through my own things as if I were the Executor of my estate. If something means a lot, but it’s in a box in the shed, maybe it’s time to pass it along to someone who’ll treasure it.

Your Brain Needs De-cluttering too!

Secret 2: De-clutter Your Brain — Dump the mental trash. My regular readers know this is my New Year’s Ritual. I play special music (see Secret 3) and get out a yellow pad. Without stopping, I write down everything that’s upsetting me. I write my worries; my self-recriminations; the internal resentment or anger about situations within and without my control.

This ritual started when I was 30. I’ve found relief in seeing these thoughts on paper. Unnamed and unrecognized resentments can make you sick. Airing them out on paper starts the healing process, releasing them through writing. I commit to writing until there’s nothing left to say; nothing left to feel; nothing left to resent.

But I don’t stop there. I may get up and walk the dog; get away from the “trash list” for a bit. Then I sit down again and focus on one item at a time. Seeing this in writing often makes me giggle. Sometimes I cry at how foolish I’ve been. Sometimes it helps me see a solution. I cross out each line and write a positive affirmation or solution in the space below.

When finished, the positive statements are transcribed onto clean paper. Then, outside to the hibachi with the original trash list! I take a deep breath, and forgive myself for my foolishness. I forgive others who may have been listed there as well. This is the process of Forgive and Remember,  not repression. It is finished. Fini. Done. Then I rip the old list to shreds, dropping it into the flames of the hibachi. Enough. Time to move on.

Fatigue comes from cluttered energy

Secret 3: De-clutter your Energy. Imagine if sounds were water. Most of us would drown in the noise surrounding us every day. Since we don’t see it, we adapt to the noise and ignore it. But do we really? Pay attention to the sounds around you. Is the TV on all the time? Is your workplace noisy? Our brains cope by setting it aside, but it’s never gone. As with that stack of papers on your desk, your brain picks up the clutter and uses up precious energy to deal with it. Noisy environments make us tired.

Recently we’ve rediscovered the ancient wisdom of using sound energy at 432Hz and 8Hz as a medium for healing and relaxation. Theories about this vary widely, but I’ve noticed I take deep breaths and feel more creative and relaxed with this music playing. I was challenged with writer’s block today. Then I played this Music to Relax. Within moments I was breathing easier and my brain began churning out ideas to share with you.

If you have pets, here’s a side benefit: when I started playing these harmonies, my very active pup climbed onto my lap and fell asleep!

Listen and see if it works for you. Pachelbel Canon in D is one of the best-known works in 432Hz

To find music that appeals to your tastes, search on 432Hz and you’ll find many options.

Take a little time each day to listen to music that soothes your harried mind. It will do wonders for your ability to get things done. Just as you shower to start your day, this music is like a hot shower for your energy.

To Your Productivity!

Blessings,

 

 

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How many?

How Many will it take?

©2015 Beth Terry CSP

“How many of these?” I was helping a friend with her Holiday store. Peering over the counter I saw a tiny girl, around 5 years old. Her mom was down the aisle shopping for ornaments. The girl held out coins in one hand and clutched small bells in the other.

“How many of these do I give you for these?” She insisted again, shoving the coins towards me.

“Well, if you give me that shiny penny, one of those quarters, and two of those dimes, I think that will be enough,” I  pointed to each coin as I said it.

 

It struck me in that moment how strange and silly our money system is. “Trade me these shiny pieces of metal for these pieces of metal that make noise.” And how easily we accept the contract without giving it much thought.

You are a fast food worker, so we will give you one thousand two hundred of those pennies for every hour you show up to work. You are able to kick a football 50 yards down a grass field? We will give you three billion, two hundred million pennies for 3 years, whether or not you show up to work.

Years ago my new 5 year-old stepdaughter asked me a “How Many?” question. Puzzling over my age, she asked in typical little kid language, “How many Christmases did you had till now?” When I told her, she followed up with, “Well, how many Christmases do you get?”

That stopped me for a moment. It’s a good question. Each Christmas since I’ve wondered, “How many more of these will I get?” Have I celebrated the seasons with enough grace and gratitude? With enough humility and joy at the passing of time and the daily gifts of living in a free country?

How many is an important question.

As a friend loves to point out – “Each of us has a number for everything important in our life.”

I think he means we each have a limit or an expectation. A number in our heads of how many times we will put up with bad behavior. How many times will we stuff our feelings about something that bugs us? How many times will we watch injustice and finally do something about it? How many pounds will we weigh before we decide maybe pushing away from the table is a good exercise routine for the new year? How many cigarettes is too many? How many drinks is too many? And then there’s the money question. How many pennies is “enough” for you to be motivated?

So, what’s your “number?” Why?

It’s a sign of maturity when we’re able to stop playing games and simply do what needs to be done so we can spend a little more time enjoying our lives and our loved ones.

How many “Gratitudes” will it take for you to feel good today?

Maybe the secret to a happy life is to know why your How Many answers are what they are, and then take steps to do something about it.

So, “How many more Christmases will YOU Get?”

Happy Hanukkah!

Happy Kwanzaa!

Happy Festivus!

Merry Christmas!

Blessings,

 

 

 

@2018 Beth Terry Events, Phoenix, AZ • All Rights Reserved

 

—–> BIG PS ——-> LISTEN IN TODAY (DECEMBER 20) at 12:12 PM AZ time to hear Beth on the Radio – Dial in online to www.NBRFM.com/studio2

 

Make Communication Easier

Communication is garbled and less effective in this mega-information age.

Here’s a way to fix that.

@1998-2018 Beth Terry, CSP, Communications
Frame your communications to provide context and perspective

Changing Communication Patterns Cause Confusion

Text messages might be quick, but they lack context, emotion, intent, and clarity.

Emails are often typed out on our phones, leading to shortcuts, typos, and misinterpretation.

Extensive use of social media has stunted our ability to put together meaningful communication. We find ourselves writing to the lowest common denominator and much is lost in translation.

Getting people to read more than a few hundred words is a challenge, yet that’s where the nuances and real communication can take place.

So – what can we do?

“Give people a place to put the information you’re sharing. Think of it as building a shelf in their brain to help them organize and think about what you say.” Rev. CH Terry (my dad)

A brain shelf for communication? That works. Set up a frame to help your listener hear you and think about your message. Make sure you communicate four key things:

@1989-2018 Beth Terry, CSP, Communications
Framing a conversation sets the stage for understanding communications

Tell them what you’ll tell them • Tell them • Recap it • Reinforce it

FIRST ~

Tell people the desired outcome. In a performance review, say, “I really want you to succeed in this position…” Now everything you say after that will be viewed with your intention in mind. They aren’t second-guessing you, or thinking they’re fired. “I want this company to do very well.” That’s a sentence you can use as you introduce new strategies. “I want us all to be proud of the conference we are planning.” Each of these set the stage for success.

SECOND ~

The old “what’s in it for me?” rule always applies. ALWAYS. Even selfless people who don’t think they listen for this are just ignoring reality. People need motivation. “Why should I listen? Why should I do this? I have a busy life. I’m tired from work. I have concerns at home. WHY Do I care?”

THIRD ~

Give an overview of next steps. Don’t go into all the details. “Today we’ll review several things we’d like to help you with.” “Let’s make sure we’re all on the same page on logistics for the conference.” Like that. Don’t launch into the logistics. Just tell them what you’re about to do.

FOURTH ~

Tell them why you are doing this. The “why” may or may not be identical to the Desired End Result. “I want you to succeed here.” “I want you to live long enough to see your grandchildren graduate from college!” (What I said to my teenager who was about to get a Driver’s License!**) Make this a motivational, inspirational sentence that leads them into the conversation at hand.

Then go into your carefully thought-out, brilliant, persuasive, organized talk.

For more information on Communication Strategies, contact me and we’ll talk. I have more than 20 different presentations on this topic that is near and dear to my heart!

Blessings,

© 2018 Beth Terry EverybodysLost.com
Beth

 

 

 

** If you would like a copy of the Drivers License Agreement I wrote for my teenagers, please contact me and I’ll happily send it to you for free!

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Becoming an Adult, pt 3

Choosing Wisely is Your Job #1 Now

Part 3 of a 3 part series

Icelandic Govt PSA - Choose Wisely
This PSA from Iceland is the best “Choosing Wisely” ad on the internet (not my OC)

Part 3: Choosing Wisely as you move forward in life will keep you out of trouble and alive long enough to watch your grandkids graduate from college. See Part 1 here and Part 2 here.

  • Remember you are the only person in your life who will be 100% affected by every single choice you make. Make good, healthy, happy choices for yourself and your future. Don’t look back on a life filled with regrets. Here’s my short list of guidelines:

~ Always choose “BEST AVAILABLE:”  Whether it’s food, friends, drinks, after work parties, the workplace, buying a car and all the other choices you have in life.

~ Keep your Word, do what you say you will do: Don’t make promises you can’t keep, or promises that will undermine or harm you later. This is unfortunately often learned through experience and failure. Do your best. That’s all you can ask of yourself.

~ Keep your eyes on the Prize. Look to the future when making choices. Always consider unintended consequences. Remember your goals and why you are here.

~ NO is a complete sentence. You have permission to not do things! You don’t need to explain anything. The less you say, the less they have to hold onto if they are trying to manipulate you into doing something you don’t want to do! If you must, try saying, “I’d love to and I can’t…” or try this, “Sure, we can do that as soon as you do this…”

Expand Your Horizons

  • READ! Not just on your electronic devices. There’s something wonderful in holding a hard cover book and tucking yourself away in a secret place to go on an internal adventure. Learn about foreign places, discover thoughts of ancient people, read histories and autobiographies to discover how other people have handled adversity and challenges.

 

  • Travel! Get out and see the world before you settle down. For that matter, learn to do things solo as well as with friends. Travel and a little independence will teach you about yourself. It will help you understand and appreciate other cultures and other people. Do it while you are young enough and have few things that tie you down.

 

You Will Survive Becoming an Adult

  • You will get your heart broken. You will fail at some things. You will get rejected. You will not always get what you want. OH WELL! Learn to take these in stride. They are just some of the costs of being a great spirit in a human body. God always answers prayer, and sometimes the answer is “NO!” I look back across the landscape of my life and am thankful daily for unanswered prayers, unmet expectations, and failures that changed my direction and my heart.

It’s going to be OK. Trust me. Someday you will tell this to your 18 year old!

Here’s a lesson on Choosing Wisely I tell all my audiences:

Be Good To People.

You don’t know who they are

You don’t know who they know

And

You don’t know who they might become!

Take care of yourself, kiddo. The world needs you. And we need you healthy and happy.

Blessings,

© 2015 Beth Terry EverybodysLost.com

© 2017 Beth Terry, CSP • All Rights Reserved

Becoming an Adult, pt 2

Becoming an Adult is not for sissies
Adulting, Beth Terry, 2017
Picture is unrelated to Adulting, but it got your attention! Yes?

Yesterday we started our conversation about becoming an adult, or what Millenials call Adulting…

Who You Hang Out With Matters
  • Choose your friends wisely. You become who you hang out with. When you were a kid, you  did the ‘celery in colored water’ experiment. If you placed cut celery into blue water, the celery turned blue. Our minds and hearts are like that celery. Without knowing, we absorb into ourselves the beliefs and ideas of those around us. Pay attention and be mindful of what you are absorbing. There are many people who do not have your best interests at heart. Be wise enough to recognize them and surround yourself with people who do. “Adulting” means taking responsibility for your surroundings.

 

  • Hold onto good friends! When you find friends you love and trust, do what you can to stay in touch! Too many times we let good friendships die from inactivity or lost communications. As a woman now in my 60’s I can count many times when I needed my girlfriends, and was so grateful I had kept them in my life. One of my best friends is a woman I met when we were awkward 13 year-olds complete with braces, gangly limbs, angst-filled poetry and crushes on all the wrong boys. We’ve seen each other through many of life’s hard times and great adventures. Adulting is hard if you try and go it alone.

 

  • Your Integrity and Your Soul are more important than Money. Care for your soul. Work to keep your integrity and ethics intact. It can be challenging in a money-oriented world. You will be tempted. Focus on the long game. Focus on your bigger vision. Keep your eyes on your higher purpose and on your future. Adulting means not selling your soul for things or status – both of these will fade in time. Hold on to those things that no one can take away.
Adulting means becoming an Individual
  • Remember who you are. You are a unique person with tremendous gifts to share with a world who needs you. Don’t forget that truth in the race to be “one of the crowd.” That crowd you currently run with will be long gone in a few years. People you work with, classmates, neighbors, and that “popular guy” are all on their own journey. You will only keep a small number of those people in your life. Don’t make decisions today with only their opinions and needs in mind.

 

To be continued tomorrow… Adulting Pt 3

Start writing your own letter to your adult children. See you tomorrow…

Blessings,

© 2015 Beth Terry EverybodysLost.com

© 2017 Beth Terry, CSP • All Rights Reserved

Becoming an Adult, pt 2

Becoming an Adult is not for sissies
Adulting, Beth Terry, 2017
Picture is unrelated to Adulting, but it got your attention! Yes?

Yesterday we started our conversation about becoming an adult, or what Millenials call Adulting…

Who You Hang Out With Matters
  • Choose your friends wisely. You become who you hang out with. When you were a kid, you  did the ‘celery in colored water’ experiment. If you placed cut celery into blue water, the celery turned blue. Our minds and hearts are like that celery. Without knowing, we absorb into ourselves the beliefs and ideas of those around us. Pay attention and be mindful of what you are absorbing. There are many people who do not have your best interests at heart. Be wise enough to recognize them and surround yourself with people who do. “Adulting” means taking responsibility for your surroundings.

 

  • Hold onto good friends! When you find friends you love and trust, do what you can to stay in touch! Too many times we let good friendships die from inactivity or lost communications. As a woman now in my 60’s I can count many times when I needed my girlfriends, and was so grateful I had kept them in my life. One of my best friends is a woman I met when we were awkward 13 year-olds complete with braces, gangly limbs, angst-filled poetry and crushes on all the wrong boys. We’ve seen each other through many of life’s hard times and great adventures. Adulting is hard if you try and go it alone.

 

  • Your Integrity and Your Soul are more important than Money. Care for your soul. Work to keep your integrity and ethics intact. It can be challenging in a money-oriented world. You will be tempted. Focus on the long game. Focus on your bigger vision. Keep your eyes on your higher purpose and on your future. Adulting means not selling your soul for things or status – both of these will fade in time. Hold on to those things that no one can take away.
Adulting means becoming an Individual
  • Remember who you are. You are a unique person with tremendous gifts to share with a world who needs you. Don’t forget that truth in the race to be “one of the crowd.” That crowd you currently run with will be long gone in a few years. People you work with, classmates, neighbors, and that “popular guy” are all on their own journey. You will only keep a small number of those people in your life. Don’t make decisions today with only their opinions and needs in mind.

 

To be continued tomorrow… Adulting Pt 3

Start writing your own letter to your adult children. See you tomorrow…

Blessings,

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