Those Pesky Unintended Consequences

Are you SURE you want to do that?

© 2015 Beth Terry Image of Banyan in Hawaii
Unintended Consequences!

We have all done it: made a decision to solve one problem, only to discover we have created three more problems with our solution. My lonely little ficus tree looked sickly and gray in the corner of my office in Hawaii. “Why not plant that outside?” I thought to myself. Why not? I discovered a half dozen why not’s!

  • The tree doubled in size the first six months. It loved all that Hawaii sun and rich volcanic soil
  • By the second year, it had quadrupled in size
  • The roots began to wind their way down to our retaining wall
  • Meanwhile my neighbor Lefty, an avid orchid grower, was dealing with the shade from this monster tree and his orchids were suffering. He was not happy with the unintended consequences of my poorly-thought-out idea…
  • I suddenly had the awful task of trying to end this tree’s reign of terror over our back yard. It looked impossible and I didn’t have any idea or any tools to commit Ficus-side.

Up until the tree incident, I enjoyed a lovely friendship with the neighbors on both sides. Not so much anymore. I told Lefty I’d bring in a tree expert when I returned from my trip.

Lefty had other ideas. His wife told me he hid in the garage and watched me drive off to the airport. As soon as my car was out of sight, he was on the job. He sawed and hacked and reduced that monster tree into submission. When he had most of the tree carcass in his truck, he drilled into the roots and poured some kind of powder, then lit it on fire.

When I returned from my trip the only visible evidence that a tree had stood there was my rapidly degrading retaining wall and a patch of new grass. The contractor I hired to shore up the wall had to pull it down piece by piece while sawing at the roots pushing from the inside. The heavy machinery tore up my lawn and destroyed part of my driveway.

The costs of this “great idea?”

  • Office Ficus Tree: $35
  • Tree hole digger: $45
  • Special composted tree dirt to fill in the hole: $7
  • Contractor to dig out roots and shore up wall: $3,500
  • Contractor to fix driveway: $1,000
  • Dinner at famous Sushi restaurant for neighbors for mea culpa: $375
Lesson learned…

When you have a “great idea” – ASK people who may know something you don’t! Ask yourself what the desired end result is. Figure out if the cost of doing it (and UNDOING it!) are worth it. And maybe just sit on the idea for a few days and revisit it when your brain cells are functioning better. Not all ideas are great. Not everything needs an action plan. And some things are better off sitting in the corner of your office looking lonely instead of being fed superfood and turning into a monster tree practically over night!!

Happy Thinking!

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

Information Overload Causes Accidents

Just wondering, did sleep deprivation contribute to Seattle crash?

The famous Ride The Ducks vehicle crashed into a bus carrying 58 foreign exchange students. Here’s a picture courtesy of Channel 7 in Seattle:

photo courtesy KIRO-7 News
Ride the Ducks Bus crashes into bus on bridge

I watched along with others as pictures of the crash on the bridge in Seattle took over the news. My heart goes out to the families of everyone involved, especially those parents so far away who trustingly sent their children to an exchange program, only to lose them.

So today isn’t a light and airy saying. It’s a reminder to BACK AWAY FROM THE ELECTRONICS once in awhile. I don’t have all the data or facts yet from the NTSB. That investigation will take weeks. But I do know that being wired all the time is making all of us very tired. Our reaction times are just not what they used to be if our systems are deprived of much needed sleep.

We aren’t sleeping as well as we used to. People often complain about fatigue and numerous police reports indicate that sleep deprivation causes 20% of traffic incidents. It’s no wonder: if you are exposing your brain to intense light and activity just minutes before bed, you’ve activated adrenaline and squashed melatonin receptors. Your brain thinks it really IS in danger from those little piggies or monsters or whatever video game you’re playing. Or it’s still replaying all the bad news that fits on your TV screen or computer. The bright lights and action is changing your biological clock.

Not only that, and this is vitally important: your brain has activated its learning processes. Your repetitive activity in those games is creating new synapses and connections within your brain. You are creating a new brain pattern!

So what do you do? Make an effort to turn off the electronics periodically. Leave your cellphone behind and go for a walk on the beach. Go play a game of touch football with your kids this weekend. Go sledding when the snow falls. Decide to not open your computer until noon one day. Take an entire weekend away from all electronic communications. Most of all, let there be a little time between electronics and bedtime. Sit and talk with family. Take your dog for a walk. Sit outside and look at the night sky.

It’s not just texting and driving that’s causing accidents. Get enough sleep and give yourself — and the others on the road with you — a fighting chance. I’m on that road, too. I’d like to stay in this side of the ground for a few more decades.

Thanks for listening!

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

 

Information Overload Causes Accidents

Just wondering, did sleep deprivation contribute to Seattle crash?

The famous Ride The Ducks vehicle crashed into a bus carrying 58 foreign exchange students. Here’s a picture courtesy of Channel 7 in Seattle:

photo courtesy KIRO-7 News
Ride the Ducks Bus crashes into bus on bridge

I watched along with others as pictures of the crash on the bridge in Seattle took over the news. My heart goes out to the families of everyone involved, especially those parents so far away who trustingly sent their children to an exchange program, only to lose them.

So today isn’t a light and airy saying. It’s a reminder to BACK AWAY FROM THE ELECTRONICS once in awhile. I don’t have all the data or facts yet from the NTSB. That investigation will take weeks. But I do know that being wired all the time is making all of us very tired. Our reaction times are just not what they used to be if our systems are deprived of much needed sleep.

We aren’t sleeping as well as we used to. People often complain about fatigue and numerous police reports indicate that sleep deprivation causes 20% of traffic incidents. It’s no wonder: if you are exposing your brain to intense light and activity just minutes before bed, you’ve activated adrenaline and squashed melatonin receptors. Your brain thinks it really IS in danger from those little piggies or monsters or whatever video game you’re playing. Or it’s still replaying all the bad news that fits on your TV screen or computer. The bright lights and action is changing your biological clock.

Not only that, and this is vitally important: your brain has activated its learning processes. Your repetitive activity in those games is creating new synapses and connections within your brain. You are creating a new brain pattern!

So what do you do? Make an effort to turn off the electronics periodically. Leave your cellphone behind and go for a walk on the beach. Go play a game of touch football with your kids this weekend. Go sledding when the snow falls. Decide to not open your computer until noon one day. Take an entire weekend away from all electronic communications. Most of all, let there be a little time between electronics and bedtime. Sit and talk with family. Take your dog for a walk. Sit outside and look at the night sky.

It’s not just texting and driving that’s causing accidents. Get enough sleep and give yourself — and the others on the road with you — a fighting chance. I’m on that road, too. I’d like to stay in this side of the ground for a few more decades.

Thanks for listening!

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

 

Information Overload Causes Accidents

Just wondering, did sleep deprivation contribute to Seattle crash?

The famous Ride The Ducks vehicle crashed into a bus carrying 58 foreign exchange students. Here’s a picture courtesy of Channel 7 in Seattle:

photo courtesy KIRO-7 News
Ride the Ducks Bus crashes into bus on bridge

I watched along with others as pictures of the crash on the bridge in Seattle took over the news. My heart goes out to the families of everyone involved, especially those parents so far away who trustingly sent their children to an exchange program, only to lose them.

So today isn’t a light and airy saying. It’s a reminder to BACK AWAY FROM THE ELECTRONICS once in awhile. I don’t have all the data or facts yet from the NTSB. That investigation will take weeks. But I do know that being wired all the time is making all of us very tired. Our reaction times are just not what they used to be if our systems are deprived of much needed sleep.

We aren’t sleeping as well as we used to. People often complain about fatigue and numerous police reports indicate that sleep deprivation causes 20% of traffic incidents. It’s no wonder: if you are exposing your brain to intense light and activity just minutes before bed, you’ve activated adrenaline and squashed melatonin receptors. Your brain thinks it really IS in danger from those little piggies or monsters or whatever video game you’re playing. Or it’s still replaying all the bad news that fits on your TV screen or computer. The bright lights and action is changing your biological clock.

Not only that, and this is vitally important: your brain has activated its learning processes. Your repetitive activity in those games is creating new synapses and connections within your brain. You are creating a new brain pattern!

So what do you do? Make an effort to turn off the electronics periodically. Leave your cellphone behind and go for a walk on the beach. Go play a game of touch football with your kids this weekend. Go sledding when the snow falls. Decide to not open your computer until noon one day. Take an entire weekend away from all electronic communications. Most of all, let there be a little time between electronics and bedtime. Sit and talk with family. Take your dog for a walk. Sit outside and look at the night sky.

It’s not just texting and driving that’s causing accidents. Get enough sleep and give yourself — and the others on the road with you — a fighting chance. I’m on that road, too. I’d like to stay in this side of the ground for a few more decades.

Thanks for listening!

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

 

Relationships Influence our future

Friendships influence our level of success or failure

©2015 Beth Terry Lanikai Paddlers

Mom was right. Who we hang out with really does influence how successful our lives will be. If everyone in our group learns a skill or has a hobby, it becomes a given that we will do that, too. This is how I wound up with a pilot’s license. I got a part time job in college working the Unicom at the regional airport. Everyone there had a pilot’s license. Instead of people saying, “I would love to get a license,” the comments to me were, “What do you mean you don’t have your license?” The peer pressure alone and the daily opportunity to get one made it easy to jump in head first.

When I moved to Hawaii, my roommate was already on a canoe paddling team because her coworkers at the hospital had formed one. They were able to take time off from work to practice because they were competing with other island medical centers in paddling competitions. For her it was natural and normal, and the time and equipment were readily available.

Look at where you are today and what skills and hobbies you have. Who influenced you? Why do you have those abilities? Conversely –  What has held you back from getting where you want to go? Because the reverse is also true: If what you want to do is strange or out of the ordinary for your immediate group, they may discourage you from acquiring those skills and hobbies that you desire.

We always have choices. We can decide those things aren’t all that important, or we can enlarge our circle of friends and find some influencers who do what we want to learn.

Figure it out! How long do you think you have?

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

Never Thought of it that way ~ Traditions

Traditions keep us together

@2015 Beth Terry, Grand Canyon

Many of my friends have left the planet in the past few years. Still we have babies, weddings and graduations to remind us Life Goes On.

The funeral wasn’t a surprise. He hadn’t been well. I was asked to MC and had only written a few words on a scrap of paper.

Traditions weighed heavily on my mind… I’ve noticed how many people push them aside and don’t understand their importance. Then again maybe those people are starting their own. I know this: humans need anchors in life. We need to be tethered to something or we’ll float away. Our disconnectedness is masked by the illusion of connections via cell phones, iPads, chat rooms and ever-present media.

It was my turn. One of my friends transcribed what I said and handed it to me at the end of the service.

“Humans need to come together and Celebrate all that Life represents.
It’s in these moments we are reminded of our connectedness and our humanity.

~ We attend graduations to remember to Learn.
~ We attend weddings to remember to Love.
~ And we attend funerals to remember to Live.

While we’re here, we’ve been given a Task:

Live for our friends who have gone ahead of us.
Live for the unexplored potential within ourselves.
Live for the possibilities we harbor and have yet to express.
Live for the pure unadulterated joy of being alive.

Here is a friend who has gone ahead.
No one knows when we will follow.
Don’t miss special moments by looking back or worrying too far forward.
Celebrate your breath, your pain, your joy, your suffering, and your lessons.

Love who you are right here, right now.

Don’t compare yourself to others or to that younger version of yourself.

Love those who love you.
Love is all you take with you.
Celebrate your Life.

Honor the lives of our friends taken from us too soon.”

Blessings,

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

September 11, 2001 ~ Never Forget

In Honor of those who died on September 11, 2001

Art by Public Domain Pictures.net
World Trade Center Postmark

It was mid-March of 2002. I had just returned from a speaking trip and there was a pile of mail on my desk. At the very bottom of it, the familiar large white manila envelope from my investment adviser at Prudential. As I started to open the envelope, my eyes fell on the postmark. It was dated September 11, 2001. Since I was living in Hawaii, and since planes and ships weren’t allowed to land there till about September 22, the whole mail system was clogged. We were getting FedEx, UPS and Post Office mail sporadically for six months afterward.

As I held the envelope, I felt chills down my back. Was the team who prepared this still alive? Was the person who mailed this alive because he/she ran down to the mailroom on the first floor to get it in the mail? It was an eerie feeling holding one of the last pieces of mail sent from the burning towers.

I still have that envelope ferreted away somewhere. I supposed the executor of my estate (hopefully 40+ years from now) will come across it buried deep in a box of memories. Since I couldn’t find it, I made a photoshopped version of a postmark (above)  just to feel that reality check once again. If I ever locate it, I’ll change out the image with the real one.

There are many world events that give us a reality check. We certainly are not the first country to have been attacked by

© US Flag by Beth Terry
Remembering 9/11

terrorists. And it wasn’t the first attack on the US (December 7, 1941 ring a bell?) More people die in car accidents every year than died on that fateful day. But the sheer shock of it, and the reminder that the world is not made up of fairy dust and unicorns was a wake up call for many people.

It would be nice if that old Coke Commercial by the Hilltop singers (recently brought back by the TV Show Madmen) could be true. September 11, 2001 and many September 11’s following it have shown that to be a far off dream. Why? Because, well, other humans are involved and some of those other humans don’t share our fondness for Liberty, Democracy, Peace and Freedom.

Take a moment today and remember.
Live your dreams, be happy.
The world is not sane, but you can be.

Blessings,

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

September 11, 2001 ~ Never Forget

In Honor of those who died on September 11, 2001

Art by Public Domain Pictures.net
World Trade Center Postmark

It was mid-March of 2002. I had just returned from a speaking trip and there was a pile of mail on my desk. At the very bottom of it, the familiar large white manila envelope from my investment adviser at Prudential. As I started to open the envelope, my eyes fell on the postmark. It was dated September 11, 2001. Since I was living in Hawaii, and since planes and ships weren’t allowed to land there till about September 22, the whole mail system was clogged. We were getting FedEx, UPS and Post Office mail sporadically for six months afterward.

As I held the envelope, I felt chills down my back. Was the team who prepared this still alive? Was the person who mailed this alive because he/she ran down to the mailroom on the first floor to get it in the mail? It was an eerie feeling holding one of the last pieces of mail sent from the burning towers.

I still have that envelope ferreted away somewhere. I supposed the executor of my estate (hopefully 40+ years from now) will come across it buried deep in a box of memories. Since I couldn’t find it, I made a photoshopped version of a postmark (above)  just to feel that reality check once again. If I ever locate it, I’ll change out the image with the real one.

There are many world events that give us a reality check. We certainly are not the first country to have been attacked by

© US Flag by Beth Terry
Remembering 9/11

terrorists. And it wasn’t the first attack on the US (December 7, 1941 ring a bell?) More people die in car accidents every year than died on that fateful day. But the sheer shock of it, and the reminder that the world is not made up of fairy dust and unicorns was a wake up call for many people.

It would be nice if that old Coke Commercial by the Hilltop singers (recently brought back by the TV Show Madmen) could be true. September 11, 2001 and many September 11’s following it have shown that to be a far off dream. Why? Because, well, other humans are involved and some of those other humans don’t share our fondness for Liberty, Democracy, Peace and Freedom.

Take a moment today and remember.
Live your dreams, be happy.
The world is not sane, but you can be.

Blessings,

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

Get Away From the Crowd

Think for yourself

Daisy Photo by Beth Terry
Get Away Once In awhile

Find your own voice. It’s hard to do that when TV, movies, radio, and online chat rooms are dictating what’s cool, what’s “in” and what you should think.  Look at it this way: the crowd doesn’t live in your body, it doesn’t pay your bills, it doesn’t pay the consequences of your choices. You do. And quite frankly, they really don’t care all that much about what you are wearing, doing, saying or singing. They’re too busy worrying about themselves.

Every once in awhile, be willing to stand alone, on your own two feet.

It’s good to get out into nature without your phone, iPad, iPod and all the other distractions of modern technology. Get in your car or on the bus and go someplace completely different: to a botanical garden, the beach, the lake, a park, go rock climbing or take in a museum. Get out of your comfort zone, get away from all those voices and listen to your own.

So many people are afraid of standing away from the crowd. Try it. You might find out you’re pretty cool all by yourself.

Cheers,

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

 

Letting Go

Saying Goodbye

Rainbow Seattle
Letting Go is Not the end of the world, Just the end of this Rainbow

Why do we insist on holding on to things that no longer work for us? We’ve all seen it with our friends and we’ve all done it. We mourn lost relationships as if they are the only relationship we will ever have in our lifetime. Sometimes people come along to help us with some aspect of our lives. Maybe we needed to learn to be loved. Maybe we needed to learn to be independent. Or we needed to understand finance, family, love, friendship, or even letting go.

Each of us has a responsibility to ourselves to become the best version of ourselves we can be. That sometimes means moving on when we want to hold on. Yes – there are times to fight for a friendship or a relationship. Only you know. Just don’t hold on so long that you hurt yourself and miss the person who has been waiting in the wings for you to be ready for them.

It’s your life. Make some healthy decisions for your now and for your future.

Cheers,

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved