Seminars/Workshops: Communication Skills, Manage Change, Resilience Training

Craig Ferguson’s Three Questions

Posted on August 31, 2015 by — No Comments ↓

Three Important Questions

Craig Ferguson 3 Questions — Craig Ferguson

Comedian and satirist Craig Ferguson is known for his candor. As an observational comedian, he has said a lot of outrageous things on stage and on the Late Show that got him into hot water. Some of them are amazing and brilliant. Ferguson is also not known for clean language. Just be warned. He makes some very good points… but don’t watch this if the “F-bomb” bothers you. Here’s the YouTube link below where he gives you the back story on his Three Questions. Again, it’s NSFW (not safe to play at work – in case you’re new to Text-Speak.)

Craig Ferguson on 3 Questions – caution, explicit language

If you’ve ever heard Ferguson and you don’t want to listen to the above video, you know he has a thick Scottish accent and always speaks with a mischievous glint in his eyes. To get the full effect of his questions, read it with his accent in your head. You know you did already!

Ferguson makes a good point about how easy it is for people to post mean and unthinking things on YouTube and on blogs. He says they do it because we are anonymous and we can get away with it. What I found amusing while searching for this video was the number of unthinking and mean things that were posted on his YouTube video that talked about NOT posting mean things! Some people’s children just never learn…

The point? Think before you post. Don’t be mean. The world is tough enough as it is, don’t add to it!

Cheers,

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

Life is Not a Straight Line

Posted on August 27, 2015 by Beth Terry — No Comments ↓

Life is Not a Straight Line

Life takes some pretty interesting dips and turns as you age, if you are lucky enough to age. Just because you are successful today doesn’t mean you will be in 5 years. Just because you are healthy right now doesn’t guarantee you will be healthy forever. The reverse is true as well. If things don’t seem to be going your way, nothing says it will always be like this.

That’s the beauty of the Resilience of the Human Spirit. You can and you will bounce back. Your choices matter, so if your life sucks, start making new and different choices. As Albert Einstein famously said,

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Experience teaches us all that Life can change on a dime. Ask the girl who was texting and driving. She ran up onto the curve, hit another car, nearly killed someone else and found herself in the hospital for a year. All for typing, ‘OMG’ on her phone while piloting a 4,000 pound vehicle down a city street.

It’s very easy to believe you are immortal and things only happen to other people. Remember: life can change in an instant. This is a reminder to make better life choices for yourself.

Cheers,

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

Choose Wisely

Posted on August 27, 2015 by Beth Terry — No Comments ↓

Choose Wisely

: Choose Wisely!

Choose wisely. Your choices matter more than you realize. As you get older, you become the product of every choice you have ever made. Be mindful and don’t take life for granted

As we age we find ourselves regretting some of our earlier choices. Over a glass of wine or coffee, we commiserate with our friends: “If only I had bought this stock or that mutual fund.” “If only I had known the damage this or that bad habit would do to me in my 50’s.” We have 20/20 hindsight, as they say. We can see a little further down the path behind us and become more mindful about the Choices we make going forward.

If we could only go back in a Time Machine and re-make some of those choices. When Millenials grumble about old-timers (which, to most of them, are people over age 30!) They miss an important point. Just as a 25 year old can give solid advice to someone in High School or Grade School, so can a person decades older than them give them some perspective on the choices they are making.

No one has all the right answers. Some of us have the benefit of a few more miles and experiences we can share. It’s always good to collaborate. If the generations would listen to each other, we could teach each other a lot.

Cheers,

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

Choose Wisely

Posted on August 27, 2015 by Beth Terry — No Comments ↓

Choose Wisely

: Choose Wisely!

Choose wisely. Your choices matter more than you realize. As you get older, you become the product of every choice you have ever made. Be mindful and don’t take life for granted

Cheers,

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

Forgive & Remember

Posted on August 27, 2015 by Beth Terry — 9 Comments ↓

Forgive and Remember

Forgiveness isn’t about letting someone “get away with it.” It’s about letting you have an open place in your heart and your life so you can get on with it. People can be real jerks. People make mistakes. You have been a jerk and made mistakes in the past. The only way you can get on with it is for you to forgive yourself, ask for forgiveness, then be someone who forgives.

The Remember part is important though. I’m not saying to bury it. I’m not saying some people shouldn’t reap the consequences of their actions. Remember how that person treated you. Remember how they acted and what they did. You might have to testify!! 🙂 You also need to remember so you can keep them at arms length, understanding they may do this again. It’s OK to be wary of the behaviors of some people. Just don’t go carrying it around with you so that it cripples you.

Cheers,

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

Secret to Successful Relationships

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Beth Terry — No Comments ↓

Secret to Successful Relationships

work with people where they are — Work with people where they areWork with people where they are, not where you want them to be.

As I struggled to learn how to be a manager, mom, girlfriend and then wife, Dad gave me this advice: the secret to successful relationships is to stop trying to make people live up to your idea of who they are. Try this: be with them in their current state. Start where they are instead of trying to take them on a journey made up of your own goals.

Try this old trick —

Write your name as fast as you can three times.

Now switch hands and write your name as fast as you can three times with that hand.

Notice that your handwriting looks like a Doctor’s Prescription? Why is that? It’s because it is natural and normal for you to use your dominant hand. I just asked you to do something that is not natural and normal for you. Your brain is hardwired to use one hand. Notice how you felt when you were trying to write. If it was easy for you, then you have a different talent than most. Most people aren’t ambidextrous. I’ve seen people stick their tongues out trying to write with their non-dominant hand when I do this exercise. I write backwards when I try it!

So here I was trying to change how you write and you couldn’t do it. If you can’t even write with a different hand, how do you expect other people to change a lifetime of habits and thoughts just because you said they should?

People aren’t going to change because it’s convenient for you. They will change when they are damn good and ready to change. You may be able to assist them if they are ready. But only when they are ready. Meanwhile, if you love them the way they are and work from that point, they may give you the same courtesy and accept you the way you are. It’s all give and take.

Cheers,

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

The Real Secret of Success

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Beth Terry — No Comments ↓

Market yourself to yourself…

The Real Secret of Success is to Market Yourself to Yourself

The secret of success is to remember that you matter. When you believe in yourself you are far more marketable and authentic.

If you don’t believe in yourself, then who will? How will you get up in the morning and motivate yourself to get out and fulfill your dreams and your potential? It’s easy to forget that we can positively impact the lives of others. It’s easy to get so wound up in our own troubles and our own mental myths that we don’t understand that we are missed and our smile is needed out in the world. Get up tomorrow morning and resolve to share a little more of yourself with the people who love you.

Notice how you react when you talk with someone who just doesn’t feel authentic. You aren’t motivated to work with them, are you? What your subconscious mind is telling you is that they don’t believe in themselves. If they don’t, why should you? Work on this within yourself and see your successes soar.

Cheers,

Remember Who You Are

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Beth Terry — No Comments ↓

Remember who you are

We are bombarded daily with images and messages telling us to be someone we aren’t. We are told to fear judgments from other people: “There might be retribution, there might be consequences, don’t be quirky, don’t be different, wait… be different — but not too different… oh don’t be THAT. Be unique but don’t make me uncomfortable. OK, I want you to be just like ME, not like YOU!”

Take a step back. Define yourself, baby. Define yourself. You only get so many rotations on this spinning green planet. Don’t lie on your deathbed wondering what happened and regretting your life choices. Live your life while you are alive!

A pastor at the Kailua, Hawaii Unity church once said something profound. I quote him when someone starts telling me who I am. I smile sweetly and say, “If I am living my life, and you are living my life… then who is living your life?” It works like a charm.

Cheers,

Remember Who You Are

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Beth Terry — No Comments ↓

Remember who you are

Cheers,

Ten Paradoxical Commandments: Anyway

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Beth Terry — No Comments ↓

Anyway, by Kent Keith

10 Commandments Kent Keith, Anyway — Anyway

Ten Paradoxical Commandments

Many years ago I received a wonderful little book by Dr. Kent Keith from our local university, Chaminade in Honolulu, Hawaii. I loved his advice, first given in a speech, in which he basically said, people and situations can be really screwed up. Oh Well! Love them anyway. Don’t give up. Keep on loving, giving, growing and becoming yourself.

Dr. Keith says he was pleased to see someone had sent Mother Teresa his speech, and was even more pleased that she used it in her ministry with the poor. She had it on her wall on a poster named “Anyway.” Someone saw Mother Teresa use these commandments and decided she was the originator of them. She wasn’t, but she did a wonderful service by encouraging the spread of this wonderful advice. You can find a powerful video by Martina McBride with this theme: Martina McBride – Anyway

Enjoy,

Cheers,