Can You Afford NOT to De-Stress?

Psssst… you’re no fun when you are stressed out!

Stress
Practice Daily De-Stressing to stay healthy

Face it, we’re all kind of a PITA (pain :-)) when we are stressed. We push people around; we aren’t ourselves; the more stressed we are the more frazzled we become. It’s not good for us and it really messes with our friendships and relationships at work and at home. Not to mention that our productivity takes a dive.

And for what? Sure, it’s great to have a mission and purpose. Not so great if you leave us prematurely due to stress!

So – here are Six Life Hacks to help you De-Stress

  1. Stretch… a LOT:
    • Before you get out of bed in the morning, do a few quick stretches. Legs straight in the air and cross over from side to side; the bicycle routine; knees to chest; knees together then rock from side to side. This gets the blood flowing, works out kinks and is a shot of energy for the day.
    • At your desk, clasp your hands together in the old “here’s the church and here’s the steeple” style. Press them straight out in front of you and then straight up over your head. Roll your shoulders to the front and back. Hold your arms out straight with your palms straight up then rotate them with palms towards the floor. Clap your hands behind you with arms as straight as possible.
    • While seated, lift each leg up off the chair, first with knees bent and then with legs as straight as possible. If you do these two little rituals daily, you will feel less stressed, more energized and better able to tackle the day. (Hah! you just did all those! I know you did! See?!)
  1. Happy Feet Keep You Stable:  When I worked at a Personnel Recruitment office in Hawaii, a very staid and proper man (or so I thought) was one of the Recruiters. One day I spotted bare, wet feet resting on a towel peeking out from under his desk. He was one of those lunch-time surfers. But on the days he couldn’t get to the beach, he’d pull a small pan of saltwater from the corner under his desk and quietly slip off his socks and shoes to soak his feet for half an hour. When I finally got up the nerve to ask him, he said it was a great stress reliever and felt like he was in the ocean. I started trying that during the day and it really works! If not at work, do it once you get home.
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Watching Hummingbirds is very relaxing
  1. Nature breaks the Stress:
    • Take a walk outside… but if you can’t go outside, do a quick search on nature cams and watch it or play it in the background for a short break. I like the Eagle Cams, Owl cams and hummingbird cams. Ustream.tv is a great resource.
    • Hummingbirds visit my patio in Arizona year round. So far I’ve had three nests and watched six babies fledge. The picture above was taken from my dining room window. They chose a tiny windchime for the base of the nest. That nest is smaller than a ping-pong ball cut in half!
    • Get out of the office during your break or lunch. Bring a sandwich and sit in the park away from the noise and mayhem.
    • Or bring nature to you – have a live plant, a fishbowl, or headphones with soothing sounds of the surf or a babbling brook.
    • Whatever floats your boat – find something to do with nature that will soothe you.
  1. Rituals are soothing: Rituals and traditions can be very grounding.
    • As teens and twenty-somethings, many of us rejected the traditions of our parents.
    • As we age, we realize that traditions can anchor us and keep us stable
    • Create healthy exercise and pre-sleep rituals
    • Try a safety ritual before bed – checking all the doors, looking in on the kids, making sure the garage door is closed
    • Short meditation rituals remind you to slow down and breathe, look around, be present
    • Reminder Rituals: Each time the clock reads either 11:11 or 1:11, I stop for a full minute and remember all the things I’m grateful for.
    • I do my Gratitudes: “10 things I’m grateful for”  each morning before getting out of bed.

Each morning before getting out of bed, I list my Gratitudes

  1. Sleep Better: Turn off bright lights, video games, emails, news programs, TV… at least 90 minutes before bed. What you put in your brain before sleep impacts your dream state, even if you don’t remember. I watched an episode of Twinning on Hulu just before bed one night and woke up stressed and upset that my twin (I don’t have a twin) was living apart from me.
  1. Stop-Drop-Breathe:  Right now consciously lower your shoulders, get that head directly over your spine, tuck in your butt so your spine is aligned. Even if you do this only occasionally, you’ll notice your back and legs don’t hurt so much, your stress levels drop almost immediately, and it’s easier to breathe.

Take care of yourself! We need you healthy!

Relax! Thanks for listening!

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

Yesterday Ended Last Night for the Cubs

Congratulations Cubs for ending a 109 year streak!

Cubs Play Padres
Cubs Play Padres at Spring Training in AZ, March 2015

Spring Training in Arizona is a big deal. Games are being played all over the Phoenix Valley, signaling the beginning of weeks of excitement and “batter up!” The smell of the popcorn, the sunny days sitting out at the fields playing hooky from work, and the sound of the bat cracking the ball bring back memories from childhood. We scour the internet for tickets every year.

While watching the the Cubs play the Padres, my friend correctly predicted, “The Cubs could go all the way this year. You should take a picture of this game. They’re awesome already.” So there’s the picture above, my little cellphone snapshot of a team well on it’s way to breaking records.

Baseball is the quintessential American sport, and one of the best ways to watch real Team Spirit in action. We’ve all heard it before, but the Cubs put Team Psychology 101 into practice and it paid off. Last night you could see they worked it from the farm teams to the dugout to coaching styles: In essence, all the players and managers said, “We don’t quit, we tell them it’s time to step it up, we tell them we believe in them, we know we can do it. We have a great team.” 

When anyone believes in you that much, it makes it so much easier to do the job right!

That’s a great reminder for all Managers!
Cubs Win at Wrigley Field! Watch here

One of the fans held up a sign that said, “No More Next Year!” That sums it up. This was a long time coming and a well deserved reward for what appears to be a solid team strategy from the top down.

Congratulations Cubs! It will be fun to watch you this year!

Cheers!

Beth Terry

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How Do You Impact People?

Even when you don’t realize it

© 2015 Beth Terry, EverybodysLost.com
You impact people more than you realize

Never mind all the new evidence about how we leave bits of our biological aura on people as we pass by them. We impact people just with our presence. Most of us aren’t aware of what’s called our “resting face.” That’s the look you have on your face when you think no one is watching. Yet others see your expression and it subtly changes their mood. I’ve seen this type of reflection happen in conversation. I’m an animated storyteller and have noticed times when I’m deep into a funny story that the person listening suddenly copies my expressions.

There was a book in the early 90’s called Emotional Contagion. The research showed humans will synchronize facial expressions with others as a way of connecting. (This is why some older married couples look alike! They’ve been copying each others’ expressions so long their faces stuck that way!) Once you change your facial expression, you’re sending messages to the rest of your body that influence how you feel. Thus the advice, “Fake it till you make it.”

Try it – sit up straight, pull your shoulders down and back. Then grin. Notice how that simple act will cause you to relax and feel slightly better. Now, slump forward, squint your eyes and glare at the screen.  Notice again how that has changed your body subtly, and not in a good way.

Take this a step further: Why do some people get better service than others? Why do some people seem to have all the luck? Why did some students in your school do better with one teacher and not with another? Why do some guys/girls get all the attention at a club? Pay Attention. Is their “resting face” friendlier than most? Do they inspire other people to smile more? I’m writing a dating book and I’ve noticed when people can make someone smile and laugh, they have a higher chance of meeting/dancing with/ dating that person.

You Impact People. Your facial expression, your moods, your energy and the look on your “resting face” change how the people around you feel about you and about themselves. We change people just by being in their space (or on TV, or in a movie…) Thus my quote from my favorite 1970’s poet, Laurence Craig Greene. “They come, they go, they never know what they do… but they do change you.” And you change them. We can’t help it. We’re social creatures.

So – if your life just isn’t working right now, try dropping those shoulders and find something to smile about. Take a break and get your focus back. Give those sourpusses in your life a wide berth. Don’t spend too much time with them. (And don’t be one of them!) Better yet, find someone who makes you laugh. It’s good for your blood pressure and it makes this crazy world just a tiny bit better for all of us.

Cheers! SMILE!

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

 

How Do You Impact People?

Even when you don’t realize it

© 2015 Beth Terry, EverybodysLost.com
You impact people more than you realize

Never mind all the new evidence about how we leave bits of our biological aura on people as we pass by them. We impact people just with our presence. Most of us aren’t aware of what’s called our “resting face.” That’s the look you have on your face when you think no one is watching. Yet others see your expression and it subtly changes their mood. I’ve seen this type of reflection happen in conversation. I’m an animated storyteller and have noticed times when I’m deep into a funny story that the person listening suddenly copies my expressions.

There was a book in the early 90’s called Emotional Contagion. The research showed humans will synchronize facial expressions with others as a way of connecting. (This is why some older married couples look alike! They’ve been copying each others’ expressions so long their faces stuck that way!) Once you change your facial expression, you’re sending messages to the rest of your body that influence how you feel. Thus the advice, “Fake it till you make it.”

Try it – sit up straight, pull your shoulders down and back. Then grin. Notice how that simple act will cause you to relax and feel slightly better. Now, slump forward, squint your eyes and glare at the screen.  Notice again how that has changed your body subtly, and not in a good way.

Take this a step further: Why do some people get better service than others? Why do some people seem to have all the luck? Why did some students in your school do better with one teacher and not with another? Why do some guys/girls get all the attention at a club? Pay Attention. Is their “resting face” friendlier than most? Do they inspire other people to smile more? I’m writing a dating book and I’ve noticed when people can make someone smile and laugh, they have a higher chance of meeting/dancing with/ dating that person.

You Impact People. Your facial expression, your moods, your energy and the look on your “resting face” change how the people around you feel about you and about themselves. We change people just by being in their space (or on TV, or in a movie…) Thus my quote from my favorite 1970’s poet, Laurence Craig Greene. “They come, they go, they never know what they do… but they do change you.” And you change them. We can’t help it. We’re social creatures.

So – if your life just isn’t working right now, try dropping those shoulders and find something to smile about. Take a break and get your focus back. Give those sourpusses in your life a wide berth. Don’t spend too much time with them. (And don’t be one of them!) Better yet, find someone who makes you laugh. It’s good for your blood pressure and it makes this crazy world just a tiny bit better for all of us.

Cheers! SMILE!

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

 

Never thought about that… Life happens in moments

Life goes on within you and without you

© 2015 Beth Terry • Life goes on
Life goes on within you and without you

In this moment life is happening all over the world to other people. Your life is both better and worse than theirs. The best thing you can do is live your life the best you know how.

~ In this moment… A new life came into the world

Somewhere else a family found out a loved one has left the planet

~ In this moment… Someone got down on one knee and asked for a hand in marriage

Somewhere else someone tearfully handed a spouse divorce papers

~ In this moment… Someone’s cancer went into remission

Somewhere else someone found out their cancer is terminal

~ In this moment … Parents watched their 5 year old walk into school for the first time

Somewhere else parents stood proudly watching their college student receive a diploma

~ In this moment someone was arrested

Somewhere else someone finished a jail sentence and headed out to a new chance at life

~~~

In each moment there are endings and beginnings happening somewhere. Whether you are at a beginning, an ending, or somewhere in the middle, hang on. Life is always and forever changing.

There will always be people better off and worse off than you.

In this moment, celebrate where you are. Make the most of your life, and learn something. One of my favorite singers, Laura Bell Bundy sang it best:

“I worry about where I am, not where I’m not.”

Be Happy,

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

 

Never thought about that… Life happens in moments

Life goes on within you and without you

© 2015 Beth Terry • Life goes on
Life goes on within you and without you

In this moment life is happening all over the world to other people. Your life is both better and worse than theirs. The best thing you can do is live your life the best you know how.

~ In this moment… A new life came into the world

Somewhere else a family found out a loved one has left the planet

~ In this moment… Someone got down on one knee and asked for a hand in marriage

Somewhere else someone tearfully handed a spouse divorce papers

~ In this moment… Someone’s cancer went into remission

Somewhere else someone found out their cancer is terminal

~ In this moment … Parents watched their 5 year old walk into school for the first time

Somewhere else parents stood proudly watching their college student receive a diploma

~ In this moment someone was arrested

Somewhere else someone finished a jail sentence and headed out to a new chance at life

~~~

In each moment there are endings and beginnings happening somewhere. Whether you are at a beginning, an ending, or somewhere in the middle, hang on. Life is always and forever changing.

There will always be people better off and worse off than you.

In this moment, celebrate where you are. Make the most of your life, and learn something. One of my favorite singers, Laura Bell Bundy sang it best:

“I worry about where I am, not where I’m not.”

Be Happy,

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

 

Those Pesky Unintended Consequences

Are you SURE you want to do that?

© 2015 Beth Terry Image of Banyan in Hawaii
Unintended Consequences!

We have all done it: made a decision to solve one problem, only to discover we have created three more problems with our solution. My lonely little ficus tree looked sickly and gray in the corner of my office in Hawaii. “Why not plant that outside?” I thought to myself. Why not? I discovered a half dozen why not’s!

  • The tree doubled in size the first six months. It loved all that Hawaii sun and rich volcanic soil
  • By the second year, it had quadrupled in size
  • The roots began to wind their way down to our retaining wall
  • Meanwhile my neighbor Lefty, an avid orchid grower, was dealing with the shade from this monster tree and his orchids were suffering. He was not happy with the unintended consequences of my poorly-thought-out idea…
  • I suddenly had the awful task of trying to end this tree’s reign of terror over our back yard. It looked impossible and I didn’t have any idea or any tools to commit Ficus-side.

Up until the tree incident, I enjoyed a lovely friendship with the neighbors on both sides. Not so much anymore. I told Lefty I’d bring in a tree expert when I returned from my trip.

Lefty had other ideas. His wife told me he hid in the garage and watched me drive off to the airport. As soon as my car was out of sight, he was on the job. He sawed and hacked and reduced that monster tree into submission. When he had most of the tree carcass in his truck, he drilled into the roots and poured some kind of powder, then lit it on fire.

When I returned from my trip the only visible evidence that a tree had stood there was my rapidly degrading retaining wall and a patch of new grass. The contractor I hired to shore up the wall had to pull it down piece by piece while sawing at the roots pushing from the inside. The heavy machinery tore up my lawn and destroyed part of my driveway.

The costs of this “great idea?”

  • Office Ficus Tree: $35
  • Tree hole digger: $45
  • Special composted tree dirt to fill in the hole: $7
  • Contractor to dig out roots and shore up wall: $3,500
  • Contractor to fix driveway: $1,000
  • Dinner at famous Sushi restaurant for neighbors for mea culpa: $375
Lesson learned…

When you have a “great idea” – ASK people who may know something you don’t! Ask yourself what the desired end result is. Figure out if the cost of doing it (and UNDOING it!) are worth it. And maybe just sit on the idea for a few days and revisit it when your brain cells are functioning better. Not all ideas are great. Not everything needs an action plan. And some things are better off sitting in the corner of your office looking lonely instead of being fed superfood and turning into a monster tree practically over night!!

Happy Thinking!

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

Just a reminder: Super Moon tonight

Digg has a great recap on the Super Moon (Blood Moon) with links to several stories and times to watch it.

How to Watch the Super Moon

Super Moon

From the New York Times article

It Really is Rare – “A total lunar eclipse will share the stage with a so-called super moon Sunday night or early Monday, depending where you are. That combination hasn’t been seen since 1982 and won’t happen again until 2033.”

So put down that TV Remote, get out your camera, take a lawn chair, an adult beverage of your choice and enjoy this rare spectacle!

May something amazing happen in your life this week!

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

Information Overload Causes Accidents

Just wondering, did sleep deprivation contribute to Seattle crash?

The famous Ride The Ducks vehicle crashed into a bus carrying 58 foreign exchange students. Here’s a picture courtesy of Channel 7 in Seattle:

photo courtesy KIRO-7 News
Ride the Ducks Bus crashes into bus on bridge

I watched along with others as pictures of the crash on the bridge in Seattle took over the news. My heart goes out to the families of everyone involved, especially those parents so far away who trustingly sent their children to an exchange program, only to lose them.

So today isn’t a light and airy saying. It’s a reminder to BACK AWAY FROM THE ELECTRONICS once in awhile. I don’t have all the data or facts yet from the NTSB. That investigation will take weeks. But I do know that being wired all the time is making all of us very tired. Our reaction times are just not what they used to be if our systems are deprived of much needed sleep.

We aren’t sleeping as well as we used to. People often complain about fatigue and numerous police reports indicate that sleep deprivation causes 20% of traffic incidents. It’s no wonder: if you are exposing your brain to intense light and activity just minutes before bed, you’ve activated adrenaline and squashed melatonin receptors. Your brain thinks it really IS in danger from those little piggies or monsters or whatever video game you’re playing. Or it’s still replaying all the bad news that fits on your TV screen or computer. The bright lights and action is changing your biological clock.

Not only that, and this is vitally important: your brain has activated its learning processes. Your repetitive activity in those games is creating new synapses and connections within your brain. You are creating a new brain pattern!

So what do you do? Make an effort to turn off the electronics periodically. Leave your cellphone behind and go for a walk on the beach. Go play a game of touch football with your kids this weekend. Go sledding when the snow falls. Decide to not open your computer until noon one day. Take an entire weekend away from all electronic communications. Most of all, let there be a little time between electronics and bedtime. Sit and talk with family. Take your dog for a walk. Sit outside and look at the night sky.

It’s not just texting and driving that’s causing accidents. Get enough sleep and give yourself — and the others on the road with you — a fighting chance. I’m on that road, too. I’d like to stay in this side of the ground for a few more decades.

Thanks for listening!

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved

 

Information Overload Causes Accidents

Just wondering, did sleep deprivation contribute to Seattle crash?

The famous Ride The Ducks vehicle crashed into a bus carrying 58 foreign exchange students. Here’s a picture courtesy of Channel 7 in Seattle:

photo courtesy KIRO-7 News
Ride the Ducks Bus crashes into bus on bridge

I watched along with others as pictures of the crash on the bridge in Seattle took over the news. My heart goes out to the families of everyone involved, especially those parents so far away who trustingly sent their children to an exchange program, only to lose them.

So today isn’t a light and airy saying. It’s a reminder to BACK AWAY FROM THE ELECTRONICS once in awhile. I don’t have all the data or facts yet from the NTSB. That investigation will take weeks. But I do know that being wired all the time is making all of us very tired. Our reaction times are just not what they used to be if our systems are deprived of much needed sleep.

We aren’t sleeping as well as we used to. People often complain about fatigue and numerous police reports indicate that sleep deprivation causes 20% of traffic incidents. It’s no wonder: if you are exposing your brain to intense light and activity just minutes before bed, you’ve activated adrenaline and squashed melatonin receptors. Your brain thinks it really IS in danger from those little piggies or monsters or whatever video game you’re playing. Or it’s still replaying all the bad news that fits on your TV screen or computer. The bright lights and action is changing your biological clock.

Not only that, and this is vitally important: your brain has activated its learning processes. Your repetitive activity in those games is creating new synapses and connections within your brain. You are creating a new brain pattern!

So what do you do? Make an effort to turn off the electronics periodically. Leave your cellphone behind and go for a walk on the beach. Go play a game of touch football with your kids this weekend. Go sledding when the snow falls. Decide to not open your computer until noon one day. Take an entire weekend away from all electronic communications. Most of all, let there be a little time between electronics and bedtime. Sit and talk with family. Take your dog for a walk. Sit outside and look at the night sky.

It’s not just texting and driving that’s causing accidents. Get enough sleep and give yourself — and the others on the road with you — a fighting chance. I’m on that road, too. I’d like to stay in this side of the ground for a few more decades.

Thanks for listening!

Beth Terry

© 2015 Beth Terry • All Rights Reserved