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Greetings!

You deserve a short break. Take a deep breath, relax those shoulders, and enjoy this "Moment for You."

This Month: Moving Beyond Hopelessness

Discouragement and Hopelessness derail more people than bad economies, enemies and setbacks. We like to blame our situation on the economy, or we become paranoid and determine that someone is after us. While it is true that there will be problems and challenges, those are not the real troublemakers -- it is our "I-sight."

If we see ourselves as being unable to make it better, then we become blind to the possibilities. We start to mutter to ourselves, "I shouldn't have made that decision. I can't believe I thought this would work. I'm a moron." The more we beat ourselves up, the more hopeless and dejected we become. Our I-sight is blinded by falsehoods that we have created to keep us from moving forward.

Why would we allow discouragement and hopelessness in? Because it is easier than figuring out what to do now. Our 'selves' become lazy - we want an easy way out. "Well, I tried and it didn't work." Then we have an excuse for it not working. And we can go back to our safe little world that isn't up to our standards, but by golly, we know our way around it.

But are we happy? No. Secretly we know there is more and that we are more. Somewhere in us, our higher self cries out to be heard and to be manifested. Make some long term goals and visions for yourself. Take the long view. I want to sit in my rocker at 100 years old and feel good about my life. I want to know that I made a positive difference and rocked someone else's world. How about you?

I think about this when I see elderly people who are impossible, angry and bitter. Is self-recrimination the reason behind their discontent? Maybe their lives disappoint them because they didn't become who they knew they could become. They made choices that weren't good ones, and they didn't forgive themselves for it. If you don't forgive yourself for that dumb decision, it's pretty hard to do anything to fix it.

Just own it. We all screw up. We all sit in numb disbelief from time to time wondering how things got this way. Don't waste a whole lot of time wondering or blaming or whining. Acknowledge it. Then DO SOMETHING! Take your life back. Study your options. Think about the positive possibilities. Ask yourself this:

"What is ONE THING I can do right now to make this better?" Then - go do that. One step at a time. You probably didn't get into this situation overnight. Give yourself some time to get out of it and move forward. You can do it. Now get going!

Good Luck!

Beth

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Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. ~Anne Lamott

Hope is Faith holding out its hand in the dark. ~George Iles

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Announcements!

We've launched the new website! It was born on September 1st! Coincidentally, that was the 19th anniversary of my speaking business! We had a few glitches here and there the first week, but it is almost completely ready to go.

After much contemplation, I realized that what I teach is RESILIENCE! And what better symbol of resilience than the Saguaro cactus? It's the most resilient plant in the desert, and a reminder to you that YOU can tap into your core and find your own resilience.

Please visit the site and tell us what you think! Thanks to Grant Holmes, the genius from Akivatech, for coming back to work with me and help me create this new brand.

There are many cool features. Go to the site and tool around a bit. You can ask me questions, put in your own testimonial, and even send companies to my Virtual Press Kit!

More Announcements:

Beth will be in Hawaii October 6-10 and November 9-15, contact Beth here if you need her, she still has some openings. Beth will be traveling throughout Arizona for the rest of October and November, and still has some dates open if you need her. Get your bookings now for 2009, her calendar is filling up!

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Cool Links

Going crazy trying to make heads or tails out of the political landscape? There's hope. It's called FactCheck Created by the Annenberg Foundation, it is dedicated to holding politicians and their teams accountable. So you will find the truth behind the spin on both sides of the political spectrum. Worth bookmarking.

Some neighborhoods are going "Reverse Trick or Treating" this year. That's where the parents and kids go together and give a gift of chocolate with a message of hope attached. Instead of asking for candy from the house, they give it!

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Fan Mail from Friends!

Beth - this seminar was so much more realistic than other seminars I have attended over the years. You speak the truth, no matter how hard the truth can be to hear. Thank you for giving me effective ways to learn to be happy with me!
Debbie Zamora,
California Women's Conference 9/9/08

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The Word From Xena!

"You two-leggeds slay me. You can walk upright. You have opposable thumbs so you can, like, open refrigerator doors and cans of food. You aren't afraid to leave the house. You can go hunting for food and one hour later come back with enough to feed us all for weeks!

You are tall enough to reach switches, and turn lights and fans on and off. When you pick me up I see a whole different world! You can hold me high enough that I can see the stupid Rottweiler over the fence (He's HUUUUGE!!!) You can scare away that big ol' noisy owl in the palm tree. And you know where the treats are hidden.

So stop whining! Geez. I'm so tired of political heads bobbling on the TV. Then everybody gotta talk about them talking about how bad it all is. Hey, you wanna talk about bad? If we are lucky, we Chihuahuas will get 17 years on this little 3rd Rock from the Sun. You don't see us complaining! You get, what, 80? 65 if you didn't take care of yourself! There's time to fix things!

So knock it off! Use that height to stand up tall. Use your food gathering smarts to take care of your family's needs. And figure out how many more trips around the sun you get so you can make good use of the rest of your years here.

Why do you think we count in dog years? It's so we won't feel inferior to how much time all you two-leggeds get! That's why we put so much energy into greeting you each time. We don't know if it will be the last time.

You could learn something from us.

Write to me. I've got a new email address: WriteXena at BethTerry dot com
(Lezard's jealous!)

ps - sending special hugs and kisses to our best friend Cathy. She lost her little Tita Chihuahua last week and we miss her. Take care of each other!!!"

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